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So I’ve been meaning to post here for a while, because my life took a happy but hectic turn back in May, which turned into a devastating turn about 2 weeks ago.  Basically it’s why I haven’t been on the forum as much.

So back at the beginning of May I took a summer institute class(a Latter Day Saint College class) over zoom.  My first day online I got put into a breakout room for this activity we were doing and I flirted with this girl a bit and ended up giving her a nickname.  A week later after the next class ended she sent me an email through the school giving me her number and asking if I wanted to study the next class’s lesson with her at the park.  I ended up looking her up on Facebook and finding out she was a single mom of 3 kids, despite this I accepted her invite which I took to be a romantic advance.

I met her the next day and we had a nice conversation.  I wasn’t sure what to think of her, but I did find out she had been married twice to two abusive guys and was actually in the middle of her second divorce and had been for 6 months due to Coronavirus and the courts being postponed.  We met again 2 days later for another study session, then my buddy told me if I wanted to go further with her I would have to meet her kids, who she talked about all the time.  So I asked her exactly that, and she responded with basically that she didn’t want her kids thinking they had a new dad.

Then 2 days later, on a Sunday she texts me in the morning wishing she had help in the garden.  I told her I would come over and help her, but she didn’t want me over by myself because of the kids.  So then she went back and forth and finally just invited me over.  So I went over and spent the whole morning helping her with her garden. That’s when I started to really like her.  The next week consisted of friendzoning in the middle of helping her in her yard and then Friday and Saturday night being filled with phone calls till 1 in the morning having deep conversations with her opening up about a lot of her abuse.  Sunday was her birthday, then Monday… was memorial day.

Monday began with class in the morning. Then after I went grocery shopping with her for a memorial day party at her house(which I didn’t mention was actually her sister’s house that contained like 3 households in the family).  Later I ended up staying for the party which was awkward because her family kept looking at me with these judgemental eyes due to her track record with guys and the fact she was still legally married.  She saw I was feeling uneasy and talked to me a bit, until they were doing s’mores.  Then she left to go change a diaper and I was alone with her mom and her sister. Her sister began giving me this lecture warning me about going after her sister.  It really awkward and as soon as she got back I jumped up and walked to my car with her.  She apologized to me for her family’s antics gave me a hug and called me as soon as I got in the car.  We talked till I got home and slipped in my bed.  We got into a really deep conversation where what used to be my best memory happened.  She ended up saying how she was afraid she wouldn’t end up being my wife and basically proposed to me over the phone at midnight.  Knowing the situation and that we wouldn’t be able to ger married for a while I said yes.

After that the next 3 months were filled with me learning how to be a husband and a dad. However because of the divorce we couldn’t even kiss.  So I spent my time living the life with what I thought would be my future family along with praying the divorce would soon end.  I fell in love with the kids just as I did with her and things were going great.  However due to this I ended up no longer having time for my friends including my pals over here on the forum.  Time with them and you guys just got buried in the busyness of life at the mad house.

Things with her were going smooth until the end of August.  She out of nowhere told me she wasn’t ready for everything and needed 2 weeks of space where I needed to “improve”.  The 2 weeks turned into 3 days, which then we discussed slowing things down which I was alright with.  However I couldn’t help but feel that her love for me was now conditional to me meeting certian standards which she said wasn’t true.  Also I got in a minor car wreck the day we got back together and I’ve been careless since, although it should get out of the shop tomorrow.

Then about 2 days later she wanted to bring things back to the speed we were going, so I agreed.  Then the next week she slowly started distancing herself from me till finally Thursday she completely ignored me until the at night when she broke up with me over text.  Out of nowhere she told me to never call or text her again, and that she was blocking my number, and that if I came to her house she’d file for a restraining order, but we could still be friends and communicate over letters.

A week later I got a letter from her talking to me about her week like I was her friend, complete ignoring the harsh cutoff she gave a week earlier.  I wrote back and told her I was not going to ignore what had happened and that she had deeply hurt me after all the time and effort I had put into helping her and trying to be the best to be husband and father I could.  I said I did not deserve the way she treated me, and that of we were going to send letters we were going to talk about what happened and patch things up.

So yeah….  Now I’m back.