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HongKongLady said
Life is soo unfair but life must go on, I would like to share my story life,  I was got married at age of 18 my  marriage life was terrible because of my ex husband, he drunk every day and was addicted with the drugs he always hit me and fighting with me, year 2000 I was working in the Middle East it was my first time been far away from my kids,  every day I’m crying because I missed my kids my contract is two years but my employer was sent me back home to the Philippines after one year because of the war, but when I’m got home I was really surprised because my ex husband has a gf and my wedding ring he gave to his gf and all the money I sent every month he just spent to his gf not to my kids,  I really want to get out of the house that time and leave them but I’m worried with my kids I decided to stay and forgiven my ex husband,  I thought he change because I forgiven him, but he still same drunk every day hit me and fighting with me, He almost kill me then I decided to apply Hong Kong because my salary not enough for the expenses, I thought my ex husband is change because I’m working abroad, but he is getting worst every time I go home for holiday only two weeks he still fighting with me and hit me, year 2010 I decided my self to get divorced my ex husband this is the story of my life,  because of my kids I’m still here in Hong Kong I want them to finish their school and thank God my eldest daughter she is graduated civil engineer and have stable job

Wow, what a touching story…what to say? It’s awful having to be apart from your kids 🙁 Spousal abuse is terrible too, I hope he never hurt the kids! And then the betrayal & new gf! HKL, you surely deserve to find a healthy fulfilling love, perhaps with someone from one of the many islands southeast of you…Thanks for sharing that with us, I bet it wasn’t easy 🙂 I must say it seems like you’ve moved past it pretty well, as well as can be expected anyway in 5 years. The bad memories will keep fading as you make newer, better ones to replace them with.

@Ahhh Girl, as you know I’m another with back problems – my report looked very similar to yours 20 years ago. I just have to share this, in hopes that one of you might be able to prevent the same from happening to you someday.

I’d like to offer one piece of advice which I don’t think I saw mentioned – be very careful if you start taking narcotic pain medication. The stuff is great for acute, relatively short term pain, and is the right solution for some in cases of terminal pain. But for chronic, severe, non-life-threatening pain (back pain for example), it’s easy to get into a spiral of ever-increasing tolerance. Increasing dose and tolerance until you finally die is ok for some terminal pain, but not if you expect to live a long time.

It happened to me – my doc kept increasing my dose just because I said it hurt worse. He didn’t test to see if there was a reason for the pain getting worse. He should have just told me that he couldn’t increase the dose any further and I’d have to live with what I was on (which was still quite a bit). What was needed was careful dose management (by the doctor) and as few increases as possible. Alcoholism runs in my dad’s family, so I probably have some sort of addictive gene. I was becoming a zombie and I couldn’t see what was happening to me, and my family thought I was “just” an addict. I was an addict, but I didn’t want to be! It certainly wasn’t for the “fun” or whatever…dozing off all the time isn’t my idea of fun.

Hopefully you’ll never get into that kind of situation, AG, but if you do go on narcotics, please do treat them with respect, because they can mess with you. I’m so lucky to be off them (as of Feb 2014) – I feel so much better, I can function socially, and my life expectancy is much longer 🙂  And once my body got used to not depending on the drugs, the pain isn’t all that terrible! Those drugs can be lifesavers for a time but they are rarely an acceptable long term solution.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                

Ahhh Girl said
I’ll keep that in mind, Matt Busby. Right now my body is screaming “I’ve Got To Get You Into My Life ” to some pain killers.

I have an appointment with a physical therapist day after tomorrow.

By all means jump on those painkilllers now. Stay on top of the pain – don’t wait until it starts hurting again before you take the next one,, get them into your system at a steady level until you start to heal (follow doc orders of course, but that’s what they usually say). You might be on them for days, weeks, months…the key is, to go off them when you no longer need them. It’s unlikely you’ll have problems if you take them because you truly need them for quite awhile; problems usually happen when people stay on them when they no longer need them.

Good luck with your p.t. and whatever other treatment you’re going to have – I went through several p.t sessions in june and july and they helped me quite a bit  One thing to check out is the TENS unit – they will have a big one at p.t. – it sends electric pulses into your muscles/spine and stimulates blood flow and stuff. You can get them for home use, they aren’t that expensive ($250 or so for a good one maybe), insurance might cover it, you can get a variety online, and different size patches (electrodes). You’ll see what I mean, but that’s one of the things I find helps a lot, and it’s not a drug.